Monthly Archives: July 2014
I recently saw the article that J. Crew (one of my favorites in terms of design) is releasing size 000 jeans. They have gotten a lot of negative press about this. Their defense is that the Asian market is calling for it. Of course this has everyone discussing what this does about female body image, and I agree. However I think the issue runs deeper and it has raised a few questions for me.
To write this post I wanted to know what percent of American women are considered plus size. I found numbers in a heartbeat. Then I googled what percent of American women are a size 0. I tried rewording the question a few different ways. I couldn’t find the answer. I know a few women who face similar issues that us curvy girls face. They are genuinely petit women and have been forced to find clothing at children’s stores. However, there are fewer of them than there are of us. So here is my first question:
- Why do we allow 000 sizing in stores, but size 12’s and 14’s are being phased out of stores and only sold online or in specialty sections?
No matter what your body type we shouldn’t let stores shame us. Over half of the market is a size 12 and up. Why aren’t stores embracing that? If nothing else, financially it makes sense. I do think it’s ridiculous that I can’t go shopping at the same stores as my straight size friends. (For the record junior plus size starts at 10, and plus is considered 14) I’d like to see that change. And really it should, considering much of this stems from vanity sizing. I found articles going back at least to 2009 about how insane size 0 is. Yet we are having the same conversation five years later about 000 sizing.
- We haven’t done anything about it and what do we do to remedy it?
Get over it ladies! Do we really want a number to define us. I don’t define myself as being a 5’2” or having a size 7 foot, by my age (35) or by my sleep number. So why would I define myself by what the scale says (haven’t checked in over a month, but maybe 190ish) or better yet by what J. Crew (way tooo big for them) or Gap (size 14/16) or even what number Monif C (1x) puts on my clothes. I define myself by who I am. Do we really need vanity sizing? Does it really make you feel that good? Yes when I slip into a 14 over a 16 for a second I smile. And when I put on my 18 pants instead of my 16, I’m not particularly thrilled. But that is fleeting. It doesn’t define my happiness. Big corporations have vanity sizing so we will buy more. We are NOT that dumb. So I say once again, get over it. You want to feel great while shopping? Buy clothes that you love and that fit properly. They will make you feel like a rock star every time you wear them. I love my Svoboda jeans every time I put them on, because they do wonders for my bum. I covet a Monif C dress because it is stunning, and beautifully made. Neither of these things appeal to me due to being a certain size. So ladies don’t fall for this trick.
- Why do men have standard sizing and women don’t?
I learned a few more things with this article and being in this industry. Clothing has traditionally been scaled to a size eight and then going up and down as needed. This quits working at a point. Good plus size designers don’t necessarily use this formula. Furthermore, did you know there was standard sizing for women? It was created in the 1920s for catalogs, but slowly, inch by inch, it has been changing. A size 24 from the 1930s is currently a size 14! We really need to go back to standard sizing, measuring our waists and not being scared of it. It’s just a number, just as insignificant as the number of words in this post (885 by the way). It would make shopping so much easier, and so much more fun if we could get over numbers.
Let’s not break out the picket signs, let’s not NOT shop somewhere. Instead, believe in yourself. Focus on buying clothes that you love and that fit. We all have body issues and things we want to change. Instead of harping on those, embrace the things you love about yourself. I know this can be hard. So start small. Maybe your eyes, or your smile, or your hands, whatever it is embrace that. Feel good about yourself for that, and let’s take it one step at a time, together. We will get you clothing that is your style and fits and makes you feel great. I’m here to help.
On another minor note I have been to China numerous times and I can tell you that although the women are small, it is slowly taking on our American habits, and they are not all a size 000. But this is just a side note.
Some fun articles I used for my data:
We’ve all had those days that no matter what we do we just aren’t looking our best, even us fashionistas. It’s one thing when you just have a bad case of the blahs, but a whole other when you have a complete faux pas.
I debated telling my story as I kick off my business. I would prefer the world see me as professional, and stylish, and who is top of my game in this business. On the other hand I want to be honest, and I want you to know me. We will make a better team to dress you and figure out your style if you understand who I am. I am most definitely human. So here is my humanity at it’s best in terms of fashion.
So what did I do? Did I wear jeans to formal ball- nah nothing quite like that. Did I have my bra break on me in the middle of a public place? Yes, in high school, safety pin to the rescue, and no I miraculously was not embarrassed. (This is not me in the pic)
Did I bend down and split my pants in half? Done that too-twice, but once again covered easily and quickly and no one was the wiser. Ok two people were the wiser when I did it the second time. And for the record this was when I started wearing clothes that fit me and recognized the importance of it. (If you need help in this arena- call me please. I’m here to help!)
What was I not able to recover from recently? Pumping! I am very pro breastfeeding for myself. (To each mom her own. I do a combo of breastfeeding and formula feeding). When breastfeed in public at times I attempt to use the cover. I don’t have a lot of luck with the cover though. Although I’m not terribly shy, I also feel like I have to do this with the right company for my daughter and I to be fully relaxed.
So here’s the set up. Daughter in daycare. Professional office that I am familiar with. My over-exhausted wardrobe choice of the day. Every morning I wake up and think what can I easily breastfeed in or easily pump in depending on the day. I have yet to miss. In the spirit of the Fourth of July I got really excited when I saw my blue and white striped dress that I haven’t worn in a while (paired with a red necklace of course). I even thought to myself why haven’t I broken that out recently. I love it.
10:30 rolls around and it’s time to pump. I get everything together, and then I look down. Two boobs stuck in my dress. There is no way to get to them without hiking my dress up. It’s like they are looking back at me laughing, knowing that something funny is about to happen. That’s why I haven’t broken out that dress. There is no way to pump. There is no private room to pump in either. (Yes, legally a workplace has to provide the space, but I am not the employee of this space. And I’m not pumping in the bathroom. Just gross- the baby food/bathroom thing-germy to me) This has never been a problem as I always use my cover to pump when I’m there and just slide my dress/blouse over slightly. I couldn’t not pump, my ta-tas would be like the night’s fireworks. Shooting loud and proud and all over! I couldn’t go home. I had to sit there and pump with my dress hiked up to my waist. The rest of the way I managed to hold the pump parts in place so I wasn’t totally naked. To make this complete fashion faux ta-tas surpass the split pants, the CEO’s wife walked in.
So my point in telling this story…
- There are fun ways to dress festive for the holidays, and not look cheesy. Furthermore us curvy ladies can, do and should wear stripes.
- I would love to hear your stories. We all have them. Let’s share. Let’s laugh. Let’s be human. And then let’s get stylish!
- It’s important know your wardrobe. How it makes you feel, why love wearing something, and how to wear it. It’s also important to think about your day before you put it on.
- If you struggle with number 3, or even have stories similar to mine and need a hand- reach out and hire me. I’m here to help. I’ve been there and I understand.