Top Weighs to Lose Weight

We already know the tried and true secrets to losing weight, I’m not sharing anything new:

1. Work Out

2. Eat Healthy

Yeah, yeah, yeah!! I say this as I stick a blissfully, yummy thumbprint cookie, that my husband made, in my mouth. We’ve all heard it. We all know it. “Don’t diet, make a life style change”– BLAH! BLAH! BLAH!

But let’s also all face it, I bet all of our New Year’s resolutions are filled with

1. Make it to the gym 5 days a week

2. Add veggies to every meal

3. Cut carbs

4. Etc., etc., etc.,

I love the holidays and part of it for me is the indulgences. And I don’t give myself a hard time about it, I embrace it. I’m not missing out! Let me tell you about my bacon cashews…heaven. Or those thumbprints- and I don’t even like cookies, or at least I didn’t pre baby. And don’t even get me started on the cheese plates or the mashed potatoes. Do you hear my salivating, this is my foody heaven. And just to be clear you will miss out on the glory of all this yumminess if you beat yourself up about it. So I don’t!

The Best Thumbprint Cookies!

Yummy Thumbprint Cookies

But then the first rolls around and reality checks in. Or maybe you did beat yourself up every night and reality never left. And we start making our resolutions.

This WILL be the year that we lose weight. This WILL be the year that we get healthy.

And we feel it to our core, in our bones. And then the 5th or the 12th, or the 30th rolls around and life has caught up. We have work, we have children, we have stress, we abhor working out, and it falls apart. We beat ourselves up again, then let it go, and then beat ourselves up once again. And well, we have all been part of this cycle for far too long.

I’m hate the f#@!ing cycle. But I also hate working out, I love food, and I love my life, and I love me. But still I’d much prefer to be skinny and the real thing is: my body feels like hell. I’m dragging with or without sleep and with our without caffeine. I can feel the extra weight. I can feel that the machine that is me, is in need of repair. I feel it when I carry my daughter up to bed and I lose my breath. I feel it when I should be happy, but I’m depressed. I feel it when I should have the energy to stay up past 10:00, but fall asleep at 9 and because I was too lazy to make dinner and ate Cheetos instead. So I’m not really sure how to reconcile all this.

I say to hell with making resolutions that sound like rules, instead

My resolution is simply stated: I will respect myself. I will listen to my body. I will pay attention to my moods.

Banish the voice that says you don’t deserve it. You do! I do! We all do! I know it’s hard to get that voice out of heads. We cling to it, it must be the truth. IT’S NOT! Force yourself to tell it to shut the f#*! up. If we can at least quiet it, then all these resolutions or rules or whatever we want to call them become easier.

And the rules will still come, and of course they will include the annoying “eat healthy, work out”, but I will do it for different reasons. I will do it out of respect for myself.

My old definition of “respecting” myself by sitting on the couch with a pizza and chips and doing nothing because I deserve it makes me feel blah and guilty. So I’m tossing it out. Not that I won’t do it, I will just call it what it is. A lazy day- and those are ok. I just choose to make those the exception. But respecting myself shouldn’t be the exception that should be the daily. So for the daily I chose to tell the voice to shove it and fill my life with inspiration, things I really want, things I care about, and taking care of me. Doing those things is easy, and simple and can be fun (well most of it).

Don't look for inspiration in signs, see it everywhere

Find Inspiration everywhere, it’s there for the taking

Which brings me to those rules we tend to call resolutions, instead I call them

How to accomplish this simply stated, but not so simply accomplished, resolution of respecting myself and telling that voice I’ve had for 36 years, it’s my turn:

  1. I will add inspiration to my life
    1. I will do my daily al anon readings in Courage to Change and One Day at a Time. Yes I’m a proud member and I find many of the readings are great for any life struggles.
    2. I will hoard cheesy, and not so cheesy inspirational photos, stories, and sayings- Yay Pinterest.
    3. I will be grateful for all that I have. It’s so easy to forget what we already have. But we should focus on it.
  2. I will treat myself with the things I really want
    1. I will take some serious time for myself. I’ll get the baby sitter, I’ll have a date night with my husband, I’ll spend the day with girlfriends, I’ll spend actual time with my daughter, and I will take some plain old me time. (Much better than a pizza any day)
    2. I might even buy a new pair of shoes, or a new bag, or even some new cloths- all within budget of course.
  3. I will focus on the work I truly care about
    1. I will use some of that me time, and write here once a week.
    2. I will embrace the passion of what I do.   There is so much inspiration and gratefulness in styling for me.
  4. And…I will add physical health into my life-Yeah, yeah,yeah- it’s here, you knew it would be.
    1. I will work out when I naturally get up early even if it’s just 10 minutes
    2. I will eat a healthier
    3. And I won’t beat myself up when I have day when I don’t do any of this

Not so scary when looking at it this way, and certainly a lot more fun. I hope all your resolutions are something you can enjoy in some way.   Happy New Year!


About stellalucille

Growing up, I did not like to shop-in fact, it almost always ended in tears. As a teenager I was busy baking, swimming, and hanging out with my boyfriend, not reading Seventeen or Elle for fashion advise. There was no indication I’d find my calling in fashion. But that all changed when I went to Los Angeles for collage and wanted to look the part. At first I loved to shop, but I easily gained the freshman 15, then more. Shopping became more difficult, but I stilled wanted to dress well. I fell in love with finding fashion forward clothing for the curvy woman and from there I had a plus size clothing. I’ve been all sizes- from straight sizes to junior plus, plus, maternity plus and back again. I love fashion and believe everyone needs to dress in his or her own style, while meshing that with what is fashion forward, fits, and works within your budget. Even though I’m the woman that wanted to wear jeans to my own wedding, I’ve always been the person that friends and family turn to for fashion advise, developing style, creating a shopping plan, educating them on fit, and helping them see beyond their own body perceptions. Put it this way I didn’t wear jeans to my wedding but when I found that elusive, perfect dress the first thing I said was it “feels” like I’m in my jeans. Finding the right fit is not always easy. Finding the right clothes is not always easy, and finding the right style is not always easy. But I can help you with all of that. Whatever shape or size, gender, lifestyle or budget there are great, fashionable, clothes for you. Feeling good in what you wear can make you feel great in who you are.

Posted on January 1, 2015, in Beauty is Confidence and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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