Monthly Archives: March 2015

Back in Business

During my hiatus I entered the corporate world.  It is, well…an experience.

Just like a doctor, a stylist, should never be her own patient.

Every curvy woman I work with I’m either dying to dress her, or find out where she went shopping.  But whenever I look in the mirror I can’t believe that this was what I was wearing.  No matter how often I go shopping, or put together new outfits from my closet, I just never feel put together.  I need a me.

Now maybe it’s because I have a toddler, and a husband, and a job, and chores, and like most of you out there I am just too tired, or busy at the end of the day to care about what I look like.  But then I think that is exactly why I want to do what I am doing here at StellaLucille.com

On the days I truly tried, I thought, well maybe it’s the money.  Between bills, and retirement, and daycare, and college funds, really, who has any money left over for themselves?  Especially when you start to look at the price of clothing.  Hell, I’m an expert in the field, and I either only find clothes that are cheap, Adele expensive, or don’t really fit.  There is nothing that is quite doing it for me in the mid-price point.

Regardless of my reasons for turning into my non-stylish self, in my quest to find my way back to StellaLucille.com I learned a few very important things.

First and foremost we ladies are amazing.  We do it all.  Even with a husband who does more than his fair share, we are still balancing the needs of our family, our friends, our house, our careers, and hopefully finding a little peace along the way.  We kick ass.  Can we take a moment to recognize that?  Regardless if we are in our sweats, or completely put together, we are making it all work, and that is no little feat.  I know you tell yourself it is.  Listen to me, it’s not.  Give yourself some serious credit.  When you lay down at night, so tired that pins in your eyes couldn’t keep them open, know that woman with the perfect make-up and hair is going through it too.  And you both are awesome. So how does the woman with perfect make-up and hair do it, and you can’t?  I honestly don’t know.  Because it’s not me.  But what I can tell you is that she is struggling too, with her own stuff.  Maybe she doesn’t have time to watch “The Royals” or maybe she isn’t cooking dinner as often, or maybe her house is a disaster.  But again, I don’t know.  But she rocks just as much as you do.  Most importantly though, that is her style.  That is what works for her.  For me it was crazy hair, mascara and whatever outfit was most comfortable.  Not the style I wanted, but mine none the less.

Each of us has our own styles, and it’s important to find and embrace yours.  You will feel better when you feel like you.  Think about what you feel most comfortable in.  Think about what you feel most confident in.  Think about what makes you the most motivated and successful while juggling life.  Think about walking past a mirror at the end of the day to see you and what to you want to see back.

Finding your style is not easy.  And once you find it, it isn’t all magic.  I know my style.  As I’ve said before I love my jeans and a t-shirt.  You know what I’m not allowed to wear to work- my jeans and a t-shirt.  I still have no idea how to handle that.  I hate suits, especially the current style.  I hate slacks.  I hate heels, so no skirts.  I really struggle and continue to do so.  But slowly, and surely I’m tweaking my jeans and t-shirt style to a corporate style.  It has taken a lot of shopping and a lot of returns.  But as I am on the cusp of having found it, I feel so much better at work, and I don’t walk past a mirror and beat myself up anymore.

The final piece to this puzzle is finding affordable clothes that fit, in your style.  I have thankfully stumbled on to a few pieces which I promptly buy in every corporate color.  I still hate looking in my closet and not seeing blues, or pinks, or patterns, but I at least feel good about myself when I go to work.

As I pick StellaLucille.com back up I will explore my downfall into the corporate doldrums of style and my clawing back out. I promise to show you some of my worst outfits that still haunt me, and some of my greatest finds.  (Off the bat best find so far is the Ava and Viv jeans from Target-although not work appropriate)  I will explore the little tweaks I have made along the way so that I can start to feel like the woman who gets up and does her make-up, but still be the woman on the run that I am.  And mostly I want to hear more from you.  What do you want to talk about in terms of style?  What makes you feel good or bad about yourself?  What are you missing in the plus size world of shopping and styling?

Do tell.

Target Ava and Viv Jeans-My new favorite!

Target Ava and Viv Jeans-My new favorite!